Face the Challenge
ANOTHER OBSTACLE on the road to health after a significant loss can be denial. Instead of facing what has happened to them, says Dr. Michael Aronoff, psychiatrist and a spokesperson for the American Psychiatric Association, many people "try to fill up that empty feeling looking for an escape." The man who rarely touched a drink will begin hitting the bottle. A woman who watched her weight will overeat. Others¡ªlike me¡ªtry literally to "run away."
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After working for bosses all his life, John Jankowski of Staten Island, N.Y., had always longed to have its own options- and stock-trading firm. He finally got the start-up money and did well. Then came a downturn in business, and before long Jankowski was in serious financial trouble.
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"It was like I'd run into a brick wall and my whole life had been shattered," he says. With financial resources exhausted and the pressure of a family to support, Jankowski's thoughts turned to escape.
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One morning, while on a run, he just kept going. After jogging westward for two hours, he staggered back home. "It finally dawned on me that I couldn't run away from my troubles. The only thing that made sense was to face up to my situation," he says. "Admitting failure was the toughest part¡ªbut I had before I could get on with my life."
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