Paraplegic - 4
And I would say that if you did back out it, then I would say that's probably a good thing, because you're backing out, it's better to back out now than to proceed with the situation and maybe back out later. I think it would be better to back out at the beginning than to pretend to be committed to it and then turn a round later and say goodbye. So I would rather someone be honest and say, "Look, I just can't deal with what's happened to you and I'm sorry. I think I would have to cancel our…
Maybe it's a way of western thinking. Korean people don't pretend. They just try, but later they feel the reality and regret his decision, and later he says to his fiancee, "I'm sorry. I can't." They usually say I will.
Maybe I could say that. What I just said was just imagination. In the real situation, who knows what? How could I change it?
Yeah, exactly. I think this is a very interesting issue, and there have been situations and cases of this happening too, and people have had different responses to it. But in all cases, it has been a very difficult time even for two people who stayed together, and because they love really each other, they have found the situation to be very difficult for them to deal with. Many things come up that you don't think about at the time even.
Yeah, right.
The whole situation of having children all of a sudden becomes a big issue. The paraplegic, while physically still OK but would not have the ability to, because of the lack of use of their body parts, would not be able to easily have children. So I think that would become another serious issue. Think about how important children are, especially in the Korean society. In North America, having children is important as well. But we have many more options, that we're open to such as adoption and things like that, whereas here in Korea that option…
Blood is more important.
Right. That option is not as acceptable here. So I think there're a lot of issues that you'd have to think about to make that decision. .
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